How to Start the Conversation with Your Loved One about Hiring a Caregiver
To be honest, I wasn’t prepared for the fact that my elderly mother was going to require a caregiver. Most of my life I hadn’t really thought ahead too much about things. Throughout my 30s, 40s, and even 50s I didn’t plan on my own retirement let alone worry about whether my mother was going to be taken care of when she was in her 80s or 90s.
She is 94 years old and has amazed most of my family for years. She has been a person who remained active throughout almost all of those years. She had a bout of breast cancer and had a double vasectomy in her late 70s but that only slowed her down for a brief period of time. Lately, though, I have noticed some issues that cause me concern for her. She seems to lose her balance more often lately.
I also noticed that her hair is not as clean as it usually is. This makes me think that she is not bathing like she used to. I knew for quite some time that we were going to have to have a conversation about hiring an in-home care provider for her. I also knew that with her independent spirit and strength, she was going to be resistant to that very idea for as long as possible.
I spent many nights sitting in a chair in the family room while everyone else was asleep just thinking about how to start this conversation. The last thing I wanted to deal with was her outright refusal to even listen to the notion of hiring a professional in-home care provider.
I began to research different topics online and discovered that the best way to start this kind of conversation is to first gather as much information about home care services so that I can answer any potential questions or concerns that my mother would have from the beginning.
I focused on the activities that she enjoys most and saw an opportunity when she had to give up a couple of things that she used to do. I started the conversation by telling her that there were still many things that she could do in life, as long as she had the right level of help. She was resistant, just as I expected, but by focusing on her passions and the things that she could still enjoy doing, I tapped into an emotional reserve that forced her to listen to what I had to say.
It took a few conversations, but she eventually came around and agreed that hiring a caregiver would provide her the best chance to continue doing the things she loved most.
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